DadReaction: Away from Her

I was really disappointed. It was so light; an after-school special look at the issues. Actual Alzheimers is so much worse, and the manipulations of the story distanced the problem: you could be a saint and your partner could still get Alzheimers. They don’t just fall in love with other people, but still regard their partners/families/etc. kindly: they will actually start to be abusive toward the people who used to be their entire lives; not just kindly “oh who are you” / a much more violent response.

Julie Christie really stole the show, but it seemed like maybe the writer was really going for the man’s story? And while there are times when it works when you shuffle time via editing (“Memento”), it’s another manipulation: it’s really easy to make the audience feel an intensity that isn’t really there.

I was also really irritated when he complained that she was wearing someone else’s sweater and the hospital administrator said “well, she looks nice in it.” We deal with nursing homes administrators all the time and I can tell you, NO nursing home administrator would ever say that, particularly not one in a high-toned place like that. They are so careful and go to great lengths to make sure people’s stuff doesn’t get confused, partly because of the pain it causes the relatives, and also just b/c of the miscellaneous theft that goes on. They sew on labels, they’re constantly policing that stuff.

Little details like that really blew the film for me.

[I liked this better than my Dad did; but I too felt that the plot manipulations were heavy-handed and obvious (and not either necessary or particularly additive to the storyline).]

Dad’s and My Reading Challenge for 2008 [Updated]

Alternating short stories & Eastern European novels.

January: “The Oxford Book of English Short Stories” edited by A.S. Byatt

February: “The Good Soldier Svejk” by Jaroslav Hasek

March: Complete Short Stories, David Malouf

April: “The Death of Virgil” by Hermann Brach

May: Collected Short Stories, Isaac Baschevis Singer

June: “War with the Newts” by Karel Capek

July: Stories TBD“The New Granta Book of the American Short Story” edited by Richard Ford

August: “The Man Without Qualities, Vol 1” by Robert Musil

September: Stories TBD“Dead Boys: Stories” by Richard Lange

October: “The Man Without Qualities, Vol 2” by Robert Musil

November: Stories TBD“The Oxford Book of Short Stories” edited by V.S. Pritchett

December: “The Trial” by Kafka

À la Nick Hornby, books in/books out for January.

Bought:

  • Matthew Eck “The Farther Shore”
  • Bill Holm “The Windows of Brimnes”
  • Vendela Vida “Let the Northern Lights Erase Your Name”
  • Elizabeth Crane “You Must Be This Happy to Enter”
  • Paul Park “A Princess of Roumania” (sci fi/fantasy)
  • Walter Mosley “Fortunate Son”
  • Elliot Perlman “Three Dollars”
  • Robert Hass “Time and Materials” (poems 1997-2005)
  • Making Out in Japanese
  • Patricia Briggs “Iron Kissed”
  • Pat Barker “Life Class”
  • Zachary Lazar “Sway”

Read:
  • Nick Hornby “Housekeeping vs. the Dirt”
  • The Oxford Book of Short Stories, edited by A.S. Byatt
  • Natasha Trethewy “Native Guard” (poetry)
  • Adrian McKinty “Dead I Well May Be” (library book of Silvia’s)
  • Walter Mosley “Fortunate Son”
  • Denis Johnson “Tree of Smoke”
  • Elizabeth Crane “You Must Be This Happy to Enter”

I have yet to write up a single book I read in January. Perhaps later this week. Perhaps.

Playlist: “Why Are You Breaking My Heart?”

An old playlist rediscovered this week-end. I quite like it, and playlists don’t always stand the test of time. (Party playlists seem to be especially time period-specific.) Not sure who was breaking my heart in Fall 2006, but perhaps I was just in the mood to have it be broken. Sonically, that is.

Why Are You Breaking My Heart?

  • “There Is a Light That Never Goes Out” (cover) – Joseph Arthur
  • “I Don’t Care What You Call Me” – David Ford
  • “I Go to the Barn Because I like the” – Band of Horses
  • “Boston” – Augustana
  • “Winding Up” – Clare Bowditch and the Feeding Set
  • “What Does It Mean Now?” – World Party
  • “Skeleton Key” – Margot & the Nuclear So and So’s
  • “Never Yours” – Tracy Chapman
  • “Unspoken Love” – The Electric Farm
  • “Home” – Barenaked Ladies
  • “You” – Switchfoot
  • “That’s How I Knew This Story Would Break My Heart” – Aimee Mann
  • “Jessie’s Girl” (cover) – Matt the Electrician
  • “Steady as We Go” – Dave Matthews
  • “Slow New York” – Richard Julian
  • “We Are Man and Wife” – Michelle Featherstone
  • “All This Dust” – Canasta